Self Esteem

How Can You Help Me With Low Confidence?

The attitudes we have towards ourselves, and towards the world in general, grow out of the way we are treated growing up. Some children are told that they are “no good,” sometimes in subtle ways and sometimes explicitly. They may be compared unfavourably to other children. They may be ignored or abused. Sometimes, paradoxically, that message is communicated by parents who are always telling their children they are great, even when they are messing up. The message that comes through, then, is that it does not matter to the parents whether or not their child is doing well.

Having low self-esteem is not just a global sense of being worthless; it manifests itself in action—or in inaction--whenever the child--the grown child—attempts to do anything. That person feels inadequate in social situations, including dating, and incapable of accomplishing any demanding (and desirable) work. When these feelings are severe, that individual becomes a failure. Feeling profoundly pessimistic, he/she will not try to accomplish anything worthwhile. Anything challenging will seem to be too difficult. Expectations of failure become self-fulfilling.

Your feelings do not determine your worth, simply the relative state of discomfort. The way you feel just proves that you are thinking that way. You don't have to do anything worthy to create or deserve self esteem, all you have to do is turn off that critical voice in your mind.

Together we will explore the limiting beliefs that are holding you back and start building deep, authentic self esteem so that you can start living the life you deserve.