Are You Worthy?
So I want to dive into a HUGE topic and something that I believe everyone struggles with to some degree: worthiness.
Many of the women I work with come to me with a deep rooted belief that they are somehow unworthy. Unworthy of their respect. Unworthy of their compassion. Unworthy of their life.
So What is Worthiness?
Self worth is all about how you view yourself as a person. How valuable you are in your own eyes. It is a deep knowing that you are of value, that you are loveable, necessary to this life and of incomprehensible of worth. It is seeing yourself as a good person that deserves to be treated compassionately and respectfully.
More often than not, we base or worth on how 'well' we are doing in life, the successes we have at work, the appraisal we receive from friends or family.
But self worth is MORE than all this. These factors play no part into your innate sense of worth. The number of friends we have, the amount of money in our bank, the number of accolades we receive do not impact our self worth one bit.
Someone with high self worth is confident in who they are and able to stand up for what they believe in. They have healthy boundaries and know when to put their needs above others. Life circumstances and the opinions of others does not shake their sense of value or worth.
How to Recognise if You Struggle with Self Worth?
The simplest way to discover how you value yourself is through determining how you treat yourself.
You might consider the words that you use when talking to or about yourself. Are you kind, loving, patient, supportive? Or are you cruel, critical and condemning?
Over time these unkind and judgemental words become engrained as beliefs which impact your perception of self worth and influence the way you live your life.
Learning to rewire your brain and replace the limiting beliefs with kind, loving, empowering thoughts is a sure fire way to build your self worth.
Another way to measure how you treat yourself is through exploring your relationships. Do you change yourself to fit in with others? Do you constantly seek approval from others? Do you find it difficult to communicate your needs? Or allow others to take advantage of you? If any of these ring true for you, then chances are, you don’t value yourself the way that you deserve.
Worthiness is Innate
Now you might not want to believe me when I say this, but I'm going to prove to you that it's true.
The concept of worthiness and unworthiness is entirely subjective.
Confused? Let me explain.
Think about a £10 note, crisp, brand new from the bank. It's worth £10 right? Okay, now imagine sealing that ten pound note is a water tight container and dropping in the ocean. What's it worth now? Intrinsically it's still worth £10. But what can you do with it? Retrieving it is going to cost more than what it's worth. This ten pound note at the bottom of the ocean is worth nothing.
So what's this got to do with the way you feel I hear you say?
Well your were born with intrinsic worth. Can you think of a new born baby that is not of value? And you still have worth. Nothing can take that innate self worth away from you. The only thing that can impact it is your perception. Only you can suppress your value. Only you can put yourself in the position of that £10 note at the bottom of the ocean.
Now let me ask you two questions? In what ways have you been suppressing your value? And are you ready to take proactive steps to overcome those feelings?
You have the power to decide your worthiness and value in this life. How? Get in touch and I'll show you simple techniques with powerful impact. Or if you want to take inspired action right away, why not explore these practices on becoming your own best cheerleader.
Much love
Alexandra xx
